I feel like our boys are normal kids. They run, play, bicker and and don't eat their vegetables (or fruits or a lot of other "grow" foods, but that is a post all its own). They are also helpful around the house to the best of their toddler ability and they looooove to help do chores and try to do things for themselves.
Most of the time.
Then Mickey decides he doesn't want to cooperate with anything I say, no matter how minute the issue. I tell him to do something ("Pick up the playing cards and put them in the bag..."), he says no ("well I'm not doing that..."), I sternly tell him again without raising my voice ("Mickey, Mamma said pick up the cards..."), and he says no again, or ignores me.
So I'm left with figuring out another way to ask/tell him to do it that suits his fancy. Then if rewording it doesn't work, I threaten him with time out. Then the job gets done most of the time. If not, he goes in time out.
I guess that's an okay way to handle it, but I just feel like he should do what I say (most of the time) without me threatening punishment. How can I motivate him to obey me without threatening him? I don't expect him to be-bop around the house picking up after himself, I'd just like one small request to not turn into a big production.
Comments welcome, and you veteran moms can be brutal.